I thought a lot about abuse these last few days ... Its one of the worst illnesses that can affect a relationship - with another person And not only Sometimes we abuse our own body (alcohol, drugs, medication) or our own mind (negativity, hate, guilt) and maybe the most often of all, we abuse our own hearts ( think yearning or love for things or people that don t deserve our heart ache)
And than, we may encounter abuse from another person Or worse, and I say worse as we each have a duty to be good , we can become the abuser ....
The most important relationship we re ever going to have is the relatioship with ourselves And from it, everything elses springs, and the quality of anything we give or do in our existence is a reflection of our relatioship with ourselves Each of us is a trinity , and a holy and unique one We re the body, and the heart, and the mind All in one, and we can t be at peace and completely happy unless we came to love and accept what we are We need to accept our bodies We only get one We can choose to love it, take care of it , treat it as the temple of our heart and mind Some people never do They continuously complain about it, compare themselves to other bodies, or let themselves get phisically ill as a result of self neglect
As Buddha said, we have a duty of care : To keep the body in good health is a duty... Otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear
We need to make piece with our own mind We ussually achieve this by looking inside ourselves, rather than at others Our mind is the most powerful weapon we ever have The mind sets everything in motion, the mind can help heal an injured body and the mind can help heal our broken heart The sad reality is that most people follow a trend , or the crowd , when it comes to habitts , when it comes to indeed anything out there So they forget they have their own mind , they forget to use it and so become useful objects in the hands of another opportunistic mind ... Its so much easier
to follow bad habitts than sticking to your own , even when you know deep down you re right ....
Forgetting that " it s no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society " And so
we talk too much , we gossip to no use, we listen way less than enough, we judge on appearances, we follow fake models and so on ....
If Deepak Chopra is right, "The way you think, the way you behave , the way you eat, can influence your life by 30 to 50 years" Can you afford he s right and you re not doing anything about yourself ?
And than, we may encounter abuse from another person Or worse, and I say worse as we each have a duty to be good , we can become the abuser ....
The most important relationship we re ever going to have is the relatioship with ourselves And from it, everything elses springs, and the quality of anything we give or do in our existence is a reflection of our relatioship with ourselves Each of us is a trinity , and a holy and unique one We re the body, and the heart, and the mind All in one, and we can t be at peace and completely happy unless we came to love and accept what we are We need to accept our bodies We only get one We can choose to love it, take care of it , treat it as the temple of our heart and mind Some people never do They continuously complain about it, compare themselves to other bodies, or let themselves get phisically ill as a result of self neglect
As Buddha said, we have a duty of care : To keep the body in good health is a duty... Otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear
We need to make piece with our own mind We ussually achieve this by looking inside ourselves, rather than at others Our mind is the most powerful weapon we ever have The mind sets everything in motion, the mind can help heal an injured body and the mind can help heal our broken heart The sad reality is that most people follow a trend , or the crowd , when it comes to habitts , when it comes to indeed anything out there So they forget they have their own mind , they forget to use it and so become useful objects in the hands of another opportunistic mind ... Its so much easier
to follow bad habitts than sticking to your own , even when you know deep down you re right ....
Forgetting that " it s no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society " And so
we talk too much , we gossip to no use, we listen way less than enough, we judge on appearances, we follow fake models and so on ....
If Deepak Chopra is right, "The way you think, the way you behave , the way you eat, can influence your life by 30 to 50 years" Can you afford he s right and you re not doing anything about yourself ?
And finally, but not the least, we need to make piece with our heart Surrender your heart to good feelings Love yourself and forgive yourself One main trait of abusers is the lack of empathy .
They are focussed on themseves, ussualy unhappy with their own person, either on a narcissistic level ( they adore their own body but deep down they re never happy with it, chasing phisical perfection
that does not exist) or in their mind - will abuse you emotionally to prove you their superiority
I m a believer of mind over heart but I do aknowledge the immense power that love has over people
Because the only thing greater than the power of the mind is the courage of the heart
The heart ussualy needs more time to accept what the mind knows already and thats the situation, and thank God for this, for many of us. If that wasn t the case, it would be way less compassion and support out there, and we well know we could use a lot more of them
Either you re the abused or the abuser , the peace was lost somewhere The power to restore it lies within ourselves The process of healing takes time But it starts with the realisation of the fact that abuse is taking place Its easy to say: refuse to be a victim There are endless scenarios and as I once said, each carries his own cross Some are happy to carry it, for personal reasons
I experienced abuse myself I like to think I left those days behind me but I wonder sometimes I may come across sometimes as agressive Sometimes intimidating Because sometimes, my abused
patience turns to fury, as T Fuller would say I argue that is not aggresion Is the fact that I faced my fears I , have no fear and people can " smell" that Hence they get intimidated There s nothing I resent more than lies, intimidation and rudeness I like to think I stand against them Some people that don t stand for what I stand for may find that intimidating
Be always brave !
peace out !!
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